jo: hope you’ve had it by now;:P
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Then again when I think about it, there must be a reason why that person cheats in the first place which unfortunately we all like to assume the solid reason is, men think with their head down there. Unfortunately, different people live in different situations and there are different factors that chip in.

Maybe it’s the fault of the person who cheats? Maybe a worse case scenario which also happens quite often, is the cheater’s better half?I cheated once, and not proud of it.

I was sexually active for some period and I met a girl who is quite interesting, so I decided to devote myself to her and change myself for the greater good. She accepted and we’ve been together for two years.

Sounds great, isn’t?

But how would you feel when your partner never trusted you? Even when you’re out with your mum?

There are many reasons why people cheat.

Unfortunately, we humans just like to assume the reason without putting ourselves in that situation.

I guess all of you are people with good morals.

jo: and that’s because you grew to love a girl:) and therefore became the devoted man that you are today. Very admirable.
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Oh.. yeah.. It is disappointing that people take so lightly the subject of cheating. It’s so common now that it’s ridiculous. How is it that such a heinous act has become so acceptable? Love and sex are not 2 different entities.. they should be one.

and if the relationship is really that bad and not going to work. then the person should take the initiative to break up first before actually getting together with another. I understand… sometimes, people fall out of love and in love with another person. At least have the bloody decency to tell the person that they currently are having a relationship with before doing anything with the 3rd party. No one can fault u then for being honest.

jo: yeah, it’s the IDEA of it being a common thing that disgusts me. exactly, why hold on to something that you don’t treasure anymore? i can never understand.. 
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jo: ooooh..:D ada faham!
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Even though I never cheated, I’ve had funny (go figure) thoughts about other girls when I was dating my ex.

You could probably say that its natural to have such thoughts, and I didn’t do it so I was fine.

Ask luzzio to explain mens rea to you.

jo: it’s no different from a healthy bout of boy oggling on a nice sunny day.:) Just like shopping. Eye candies. No harm done. as long as you know where and who you truly belong to, then it’s all fine.:)
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jo:
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Emotional view:
The principle of fairness has been broken. How can we prevent people from cheating in the name of love? How come? Why? There can be endless debate about this.

As much as we would like to please our soul by having a ‘perfect’ society. A place where people can be trusted and true love exist. It just doesn’t happen always. I’m not saying there are no good people out there. It’s just jungle out there, all type of people exist. Ourselves are imperfect either. I’ve seen people doing things they themself can’t believe they did.
So what does this mean ?
It’s just life…

jo: so okay, let’s say RM1 is the analogy for hanging out together with another girl. It’s nothing, they could be friends. Rm1 only mah, won’t matter. But the full package is akin to losing RM1,000,000.

At the end of the day, we’re all just selfish individuals and when our heart breaks it’s because we imagine ourselves to be suffering the same fate. Simple.

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as for those in a relationship and yet say sex and love are two separate things…i better not meet any one of those ppl in my life, or else they’ll get an earful from me if they can compartmentalise the issue so coldly, then i guess they have never truly been in love before. they would never understand the fulfilment of having sex with the person you’re madly in love with. and if they were in love in the first place (as they claim), they would never contemplate hurting the other party by giving lame justifications like this to excuse their bastardly ways.

emotional cheating is even worse. don’t even get me started on this :/

jo: cheating of any kind… they all suck. but cheating makes the other half feel like they are rubbish..
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Read it on the papers today that technology is so advance that it can remove mouses’ fear towards cats. Do you think it’d work on men/women not to cheat? haha! god. i just made myself laugh. -_-

jo: if only, babes. if only.
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jo: hehe… yeah, it’s an issue that has been bothering me. okay i will. 
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