Comments on: What Do You Believe About Death?

By: simon

simon — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 13:10:11 +0000

my condolences to you and your family.

l believe death is a temporary separation, until that day when we meet again.

jo: thank you..i take comfort in that thought.
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By: sweatlee

sweatlee — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 18:24:08 +0000

so many questions and yet no answers to any of them. i don’t believe in religions but i think buddhism provides some very good answers (albeit it not being a religion itself).
i can’t give you answers cause i haven’t experienced anything close to what you’ve been experiencing lately but i know you’re going to be strong. take care ok?

jo: yes, very..how do you say…….logical teachings. Hehe.

yes i will be strong, suet. Thanks babes. *hugs*
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By: s0hp0h

s0hp0h — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 04:29:37 +0000

while I haven’t have a first hand experience in losing some one close to me, most recent one being years and years ago when I still don’t understand what death is, I know how it feels weird when one day they’re here, the next they’re not. I had a fren who lost someone really dear very suddenly, and it came as a real shock to not only me because I’ve seen the late relative just the day before, looking perfectly fine. Didn’t expect that coming and I myself find it hard to handle the truth – so I know you all must be taking it hard. But I do believe death is destined and if my time is up, no matter what I do, my life will still be taken away regardless of what choice i took. the only difference is how.

I used to think, I would rather die not knowing I’m going to die, but after what has happened around me, I changed my mind. While it’s more painful in my perspective to endure the slow process of death, and possibly more painful for those who cared for me, I think preparation makes such a big difference.

Hope you’ll stay strong and I know you will.. *hugs*

jo: =( sorry about your friend’s uncle… Yeah, preparation. Didn’t think of it that way. I guess I’d rather my family members go suddenly, then seeing them suffer. But I would want to die slowly so that the people around me has time to say goodbye and for me to tell them that I love them even more. Thank you for helping me find the answer to my query.
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By: Lydia

Lydia — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 01:33:07 +0000

my deepest condolences, Jolene. Your Yee Ma sounds like a really wonderful person. She would want you and your family to move on. She may have left physically but she has left a legacy behind, one that will always stay in the hearts of her loved ones. Big hugs.

By: mervyn

mervyn — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 17:15:31 +0000

That hanging bit was 12 years ago??

jo: yeappp damn long right.
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By: Dr. Tan

Dr. Tan — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 16:33:36 +0000

Dammit I opened this page and now I don’t know what to say to you.

jo: it’s okay. thanks for commenting.
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By: aeroplane1234

aeroplane1234 — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 16:25:18 +0000

thing happens for a reason, if we dont know the reason, perhaps let’s us give it a reason, give it a positive one, give it a meaningful one, give it a reason that puts us together, comforts the rest and make us move on.

jo: yes..that sounds correct.. thanks.
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By: vss3t

vss3t — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 16:00:12 +0000

hugs…
Jolene, yes it is true that not every ordinary people gets gems in their ashes when they (the deceased) were cremated. only higher monks and extraordinary ppl like your aunt is blessed with good karma gets those gems, wad not to say – emerald jade like.

death may be really hard for people around her to accept the sudden fact, but (to me) it may be less painful for the deceased to go through death – rather than having to bear critical illness or pains on hospital beds and slowly passed away. My uncle just passed away months ago while taking an afternoon nap, a real shock to the family, but he passed away smiling in his dreams.

you’ll be stronger. hugs!

jO: aaaah…thanks for the explaination. =) i’m now enlightened.

it’s scary to suddenly go. but it might be a good thing coz no one loses their dignity and energy in the long run, rite? sorry about ur uncle too.
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By: Samantha

Samantha — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 13:10:30 +0000

Hey dearie.
Hang in there alright???
*Big bear hug*

jo: i will.:) thanks.
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By: Kelly

Kelly — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 09:06:42 +0000

It’s never easy to cope with death especially when it comes to somebody this special and close to you. *hugs* Be strong and if what all religions belief of an after life is true…you’ll be with her again..one day.

jo: that’s a nice thought. i’ll take it.
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